Angry kid?

my 5 year old has a suprising amount of rage that just wont end. None of our other kids have the anger he has. We've tried every thing but sending him to a shrink. Have any ideas on how to redirect his temper with out hurting anyone or costing a bunch?

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Get a doctor's opinion as the only and last solution. Maybe he ha a reason of some sort to be angry. Talk to him see what he says. He is five, he should be able to tell you what's wrong. Maybe something is going on with his classmates ( if he goes to school already that is).

Hope this helps. :)

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You might want to keep track of when this happens. Sometimes allergic reactions to things can make a child this way. A friend of my mother had a son who would get viciously cruel if he has a lot of sweets and red dye no.6 i think.
ask him how he feels and talk to him like a mom not a doctor.
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Honestly, I never believed in shrinks. What he needs is for his parents to be nice and calm with him. Then, when he does have one of his episodes, just start yelling and screaming at him like crazy. A good spanking will do also. This should startle him and let him know that there is someone bigger, meaner, and stronger (when you have to be) than he is. This will also teach him that his parents are calm and polite almost always. But there is a right place and time to go crazy.
i think you should try to redirect his anger to more productive thigns such as coloring how he feels and maybe showing him tha **** bad to hav ethat much anger
I can't tell you what to do , but I will warn you that my stepson started out that way, and at 12 it is no better. Counceling, a change of schools, living with us instead of his mother, and nothing has changed. His mom and dad are now going to put him in a special boys home for chilren with behavioral issues.

I don't mean that you should do that at your childs age, but believe me, it can and will get worse.

Good luck
First, check to see if there's a physical problem. If there's pain that the child can't express, it might cause this kind of acting out.

Also, check if he's got ADHD, or anything like that.

Also, you can check and see if there's a "Children's Home Society" (CHS) close by. Our foster son went through CHS for a year (he lost his parents due to legal problems with alcohol, neglect and abuse, and he was VERY angry). CHS helped him out tremendously.

Third, I recommend a book called "Parenting With Love And Logic" - it will help you learn how to set limits and disciplines. I'm sure any Barnes And Nobles would carry the book.
make him stay in his room until he learn how to be good
Try giving him an outlet for his anger. When he gets angry give him something he take it out on. I have seen inflatable punching bags made for kids. It might make him feel better to be able to focus his anger onto an object. You will also need to get to the root of the problem. I would try asking him directly first, but it may take some detective work.
I work with kids in an after-school program and one 8-year old is an extremely angry kid. He will pick up a chair and attempt to throw it at someone if they make him mad. He'll storm off from our group and then we'll have to send a few staff members to chase after him, which I find ridiculous. I know his doctor had him on meds and it calms him down. If he is in school, try to talk to the school counselor for advice. I know there is a lot of controversy over medicating kids, but I've seen it work for a few of our more 'angry' kids. You've got to nip it in the bud now, because it'll just get worse as he gets older. We've had entire meetings at work about what to do with that 8-year old, and you don't want your son to be like that in a few years. Even if it costs a little money, it'll be worth it to get your son some help.
Just curious, is there alot of arguing between your spouse and yourself? Many times children act out because of this. My daughters two children are very angry and act out because of the severe fighting in the home. She has taken her daughter to a therapist, this was the answer she was given. The arguing has diminished a bit and I can see some change, but I know it might be too soon to notice any great change. I wish you the best of luck,I know how hard this can be.
I highly recommend getting a qualified outsider's opinion. Sometimes there are different aspects of situations that combine to create problems. It can be extremely difficult to point these factors out and look at the situation as a whole when you are actively involved in it. At five, I'd imagine your son is in kindergarten or a pre-k program, unless he is being homeschooled or alternatively educated. If he is in a school system, speak to the counselor at his school. If he is not in school or there is not a counselor available, I would recommend that you seek out a family or developmental counselor of some sort, or even the leader of your religious organization if you are a part of one, clergy members are often trained in family counseling as well. The point of speaking to an outsider is not to have someone tell you what is "right" or command you in how to raise your children, but to simply voice your concerns and get some feedback that will likely give you new ideas and food for thought. A slight change in perspective can unlock a multitude of answers to a problem.
First I would be very concerned because at 5 years old, what does he have to be angry about. Children are supposed to be happy and carefree and worry free. If your child is in school or daycare, maybe you should check w/ his teachers to find out if there could be a problem going on there that you are unaware of. Sometimes children act out in anger when they're being teased or bothered by their peers. The only way you will be able to control his anger is finding the source of it. Children, especially at age 5, are gentle enough for you to speak to calmly and reassuringly. You as a parent have to allow your children to feel that you can be understanding to their needs and behavior and that they can count on you 100% so that they feel comfortable opening up to you. If they can't get that at home, it would be a shame for them to have to get that comfort elsewhere. I have 2 children, ages 8 and 6, and they tell me how they feel all the time. Try making talking to your son easy and fun by telling him that the two of you are going to play a little game called "tell me about your day". Make a chart with smiley faces that reflect each mood and start off by asking your son to point to the face that best describes how he is feeling. Then ask him to tell you why he feels that way. This will open up the conversation between the two of you and allow him to feel like you are attentive to his needs. The fact that you have other children may make him feel as though he's not getting enough time with you or from you. I know having to mother more than one child can be a challenge but spread the love! Good Luck.
There could well be an underlying reason for his aggressive behaviour. Another answer mentions red colouring; it has been well documented that some food colouring can cause altered behavioural states in children.

However, it could also be that he has a problem relating to a chemical imbalance. I have had such a problem myself all my life. It is now treated with just a couple of tablets a day, but I went undiagnosed as a child and was always 'losing my temper' for no good reason. In my case, the condition was atypical epilepsy, (which wasn't so well recognized forty years ago and even now is not such common knowledge among GP's). The tablets I take act upon my brain chemistry to keep it within normal levels. While such conditions are not so rare, I am not suggesting this is the case with your little boy, just pointing it out as a remote possibility.

It really is best to see a specialist paediatrician for advice, especially as his behaviour is completely diferent from those of his siblings, which more or less rules out any external environmental factors. It may also be a good idea to ask for a full EEG to be done (including a 'strobe' test). I can attest that it is a completely painless and harmless procedure (no injections required!) ; from the medical standpoint it is an extremely useful aid in diagnosing a variety of behavioural problems.

It is also a very good idea to keep a note of his moods and what he has eaten, but keep track of details such as his sleep patterns as well and see if anything stands out. These are all vital clues and could provide the answer to what must be a very troubling problem for you. Also note if his behaviour becomes more excitable or aggressive after watching TV.

I wish you and your little boy all the best and hope that you can find an answer soon.

Lenky
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It might be a good idea to take him to counseling.
First of all I suggest finding out WHY he is angry.
Try Dr. Phil. Go to his show. I am serious. He will help. It might be something in your child's mind that you can not change. It sounds like he may need some medicine, at least temporary.

Dr. Phil will pay for your travel, and will give you a good advice.