What do you tell your children when they want something you will not allow them to have, but another

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I don't give my 22 mo son soft drinks, except for a VERY special fun treat. My hus keeps giving it to my son! His mom and sisters give it to there kids, so he doesn't see it as a problem. Am I being too strict? I've talked with him about it and he has not given him as much, but he still gives it to him. Right now, my son is CRYING to have some Coke. I just keep saying no and trying to redirect him, but now I feel like the bad guy. For the record, I don't drink soft drinks unless I am out and it is the ONLY option. I usually take drinks (water, juice, milk) with me when we go out, anyway.

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Your husband and his family should respect your wishes, especially while you son is so young. I didn't want my kids having sodas either but if they had some, I explained that it was a special treat. To this day (they are 10 and 12) I rarely give them any. They aren't always happy about that, but I'm the mom. I don't want to rasie a pair of sugar addicted fatty kids. You be as strict as you need to be. Talk to your husband and establish rules regarding soda so you guys are on the same page.

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A 22 month old should not be drinking soda at all! Especially soda with caffeine. Stick to your guns and tell your husband that you don't want your son drinking soda and he needs to help you enforce that.
At less than 2 years old, a child does not need carbonated drinks. Juice and water, perhaps gatorade but not Coke. Read this from webmd and maybe you can get some help to head off the erring parent. Your child is forming teeth, which coke will help rot. etc.

http://children.webmd.com/features/child...
When my children were smaller I didn't give them sodas and candy very much either. They "grew" into them - as they got older. My oldest child never had candy until he was about 4 but by the time my youngest came everyone in the house had soda or candy occassionally so she was exposed to it at a younger age - no harm done. I just didn't like a lot of candy and/or soda. If you really feel that soda is only for special occasions, when your child asks for soda, just say "No, that for special occasions. You may have - milk, water, juice or whatever". Ask your husband to be more supportive and it is your husband's place to discuss with his family that you would really appreciate it if they didn't give your son soda often - out of respect they should honor that request. Good luck to you and God Bless.
You need to let them know that you dont feel he needs to have it all the time. Expalin to them that it eats away calcium in their little bones and the colors are connected to adhd and the preservatives are linked to asthma- there is proof on the internet. You can never be too safe, if not just for their little teeth! Did you know in Mexico- on diet coke- there is a warning on the bottle like cigarrettes! ?! Not for children under 12 or pregnant women!!!! He doesnt need soda- especially not COKE! thats like the worst. They are not respecting your needs. Stand up for yourself, and your baby! You got it right, and they are being rude!
Your not being the bad guy. My kids don't drink soda at home. Find something he likes to eat and have it handy so when he wants soda you can say this or this. I would rather my kids have a candy bar or something sweet to eat than soda. My youngest wanted to only drink soda so everyone in our family quit drinking soda. At grandma's she can have one soda and when its gone, she is done.
No its a great thing to not give your kids soft drinks there are so many bad things in there for them.

Yes once in a blue moon they get a soft drink but no more than that most of the tI'me its milk and water. IF they want a treat drink i give them chocolate silk milk its soy. They love it im afraid when they go to school but i keep telling them what will happen to them if they drink to much soft drinks and stuff and they understand. There very good about it.

When family and friends want to give it to them i tell them if you do give them a half a cup for the whole day and that's it. They understand i want my kids to be kids not hyper active little demons because of caffeine and they stuff.

Good luck and just set down with him a few times and explain why and tell the family the same thing. if you can't next time take the drinks over there for them and say this is all he can have nothing else i would appreciate it if you take care of my kid like i do.
First of all, for right now, stick to your own ways and don't give in to your son. Second, you and your husband need to have a talk about it and resolve it. As you already know, it's not fair to him for one parent to say something like that is ok, and for one to say it isn't. I personally don't think you are too strict, I have never given my 3 yr. old soda either, and wouldn't want anyone else to. Luckily I'm a single mom, and what I say goes, no arguing! lol Just one benefit... Anyway, my daughter knows soda is only a drink for big people, and not her. Make your son some chocolate milk or give him something else you have that's special, like a juice box or something different to get his mind off the soda. And try to work this out with your husband ASAP.

BTW - maybe you should mention to your husband how not only is soda not nutritional in any way for your son, it can actually cause harm to his health. A young boy needs food and drinks with nutrients, not pure sugar. And by giving him soda now, you are setting a bad example for his future eating habits.
You need to hash things out with the other family member. Plus your kid has an addictive personality and maybe a physical addiction to caffene so you need to look into that. 22 months old is WAY too young for caffene. You can seriously mess up his developing metabolism. Get a video camera and record your husband then tell him if he ever does it again you will divorce him and call child protectiion. And dont you ever give him any coke, special treat or not. While in the womb and the first 3 or 4 years of life much of the childs immune, hormonal, and neurological systems are still working out what is "normal" Giving them any unnatural substance (or natural substance in excessesive quatities) mess things up. Even giving him vitamins with high antioxidant doses can make him under produce antioxidants for the rest of his life. Failing to give them normal stimuli can also cause problems. Dont use hypoallergenic air filters your child needs to be exposed to allergens while his immune system is developing or he can end up with really nasty allergies later in life. Dont screw with nature.
It hard to explain to a child this young, but try to make him see that soda is good, but doesn't make his body grow healthy and strong. Maybe you could give him juice and put a slice of fruit on the glass or in the cup so it's fancy.
I told my boys that that is what *our* Family does and no matter that "All the other boys have/are allowed to ..." and so on.

Fizzy drinks are fulll of sugars,chemical additives and,in the case of cola,caffeine which will keep young children awake at night.

You do what you think is right for *your* son.He will thank you for it one day even if he is grizzling now.

Best wishes,

Joan.
when i moved into my house the toilet had really bad limescale. do you know what i used to clean it off? coke. thats right. its an acid. you need to research the impact of soft drinks on small children and present the info to the husband. i wont let my children drink it unless like you, its for a special treat. coke makes my eldest two children hyper active. and all the sugar just isnt good for the system. you are correct, juice, milk and water are the best drinks to give your children. dont let them make you feel bad for looking out for your son! if his mum and sisters give it to their children well thats their choice. yours is to not and thats just that. stick to your guns.
You just keep explaining to him why you don't think it's a healthy thing to have on a regular basis %26amp; offering him alternatives.

Dad doesn't have to be wrong for you to be right. You just have to keep on doing what you think is right (and have an open mind to the possibility that your way is not necessarily the only right way of doing things).
Stop knocking yourself down.You are a good mother whom only wants what is best for your child.Your family needs a pow wow with you about how you feel about soft drinks.